I am so freaking disgusted with Ben Roethlisberger, with so many other "fans", with the DVE morning show, the whole bit that I'm not sure I can really cheer for the Steelers this year.
Lack of charges does not mean lack of crime. It means there's a lack of evidence. The local Mayberry PD bungled the case (not securing the scene, allowing the janitor to sterilize the bathroom before an investigation could be conducted, allowing the bar to maintain custody of relevant security footage and immediately erase it, delaying asking the GBI for assistance) and anyone reading the file could easily see that the woman was under intense pressure to not pursue anything (the initial police report was taken by a cop that made derogatory comments about her on the record, and the complete file noted that the woman supposedly wouldn't talk to police on the advice of a "therapist"-- what therapist out there would suggest that, at the least risking professional censure by interfering with a police investigation?).
Yeah, it's he said-she said with questionable consent (IF you're willing to ignore the fact that the case file states that the woman said no). Guess what? MANY, if not MOST rape cases are! And as a culture, we like to blame the victim-- she shouldn't have put herself in that situation, she shouldn't have gotten drunk/ high/ worn a short skirt/ danced/ worn a "DTF" button. Why are we so unwilling to hold the man accountable? How about... he shouldn't have raped her? What a radical notion. It doesn't matter what a person is wearing, where they are, if they're drunk or high, if they're a stripper or a pro, no means no. Stop means no. Inability to give consent means no. Really, it's not that difficult a concept. If you have to pay cops to abuse their power to guard the door, it's probably a sign that you know she's saying no.
But you point those things out, and you're called a feminazi. Ow. Gee, that hurts. If the radical notion that women aren't objects and you shouldn't rape us makes me a feminazi, then I guess that makes me a feminazi. And I'm proud to wear that label.
I hear from a shocking number of other Steelers fans the absolute most disgusting, sexist, vile comments. Somehow, it's all okay because there weren't charges. And the woman was underage and drinking! She's obviously the first person to ever get drunk before she turns 21 so clearly she deserves whatever happens! Mark Madden, that pillar of sanity, doesn't think that a woman can be raped if she's wearing anything provocative or is sexually active! I am ashamed, ashamed that I can possibly be grouped with the kind of people that think it's okay to have a quarterback that behaves like this as long as he wins Superbowls. Absolutely not. Winning isn't everything. And no, because it's been brought up as some sort of "rebuttal"-- I am not happy that James Harrison was barely slapped on the wrist for slapping around his babymama.
I'm canceling my blood donation appointment at Steelers Fan Blitz this weekend and I'm boycotting WDVE for Randy's and the X for Madden's sexist bullshit. I don't know when I'll next be able to wear my Steelers gear without a sense of shame.